When was the last time you and your partner were alone together and enjoyed each others company?

No kids, no interruptions just the two of you? If you had to think about that then its been too long.

The one thing I’ve found to play an important role in relationships is communicating. My mum told me “communication is the key to any relationship” and she’s absolutely right, I see this with my clients now and my own relationship over the years.

So many couples simply stop talking to each other and as a result, stop being intimate with each other and then arguments start, nit picking happens and if it doesn’t stop over time you get fed up, its too hard and you split or stay unhappy.

Does this sound familiar? Is this happening in your life or someone you know?

It simply means your disconnected but you can come back from this.

When you fell in love you couldn’t keep your hands off each other, you talked, you were openly communicating then life starts and gets in the way of this. If this is happening in your relationship then its times to take the reigns back and start talking.

At the end of the day after being at work and not seeing each other, take 5 mins to stop ✋ and talk about your day no matter how mundane it is.

By giving each other your undivided attention you are bringing your relationship back . Now I can hear you all, while reading this, “say its not that easy as we have kids”

But the truth is the kids can live without you for 5 mins. Set them up before your partner gets in so you have the time. its 5 mins

I have 2 children and I still do this and started when they were at a young age. Its also teaching your kids that parents need time too for a healthy relationship.

So ask yourself this question when was the last time you were intimate with your partner?

I have women and men see me and I can say more and more men tell me “We don’t have sex anymore. If she just did this it would fix things” and I have women seeing me saying “All he wants is sex and I don’t want sex with him as I’m tired and don’t feel appreciated”.

So what your partner is really saying is:
Men: “I need sex to feel loved”
Women: “I need an emotional connection to want to be intimate so if I’m tired and you havent made the effort then I’m not either”

So men try paying attention to your partner make her feel special and appreciated, help her out with the chores/kids at night but ladies when your man does this and you acknowledge what he’s doing thank him then make sure you have sex with him. No excuses!!!!!

Talking to each other will bring you closer, bringing you closer will lead to being more intimate and being more intimate will lead to a healthier relationship.

So have a think about where your relationship is at and enjoy your Monday everyone xxx

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Today I got to be the client. This morning with my hour off I decided to go and get a massage done to relieve some tension in my shoulders and headed down to a clinic where I had never been before.
I was so nervous going to a new place, also not knowing who was going to be working on me, freaked me out so much that I nearly chickened out on the way there, then also in the waiting room too. So I was asked myself, shit do my first time clients feel this way coming to me? Then I remembered yes of course some do, I usually feel there energy quite tense, until they realize I’m pretty normal (at least that’s what I hope think) lol…
I was greeted by a person at the front desk, that said to wait so I did. Thinking to myself hmmm I haven’t been here before maybe I should be filling something out, so I asked the girl and she was like “Oh you have never been here before, ok you better fill out this form”. Nearly ready to run I thought, no she’s the receptionist not the therapist and filled in the form. So I waited anxiously until the lady came to get me and she was lovely and full of energy, in my mind I was like “Phew thank god for that, she seems normal ok here we go”.
So I’m expecting to walk into something that remotely looks like “my room” so I knew it probably wouldn’t have aromatherapy and wouldn’t be pink but I was looking forward to a comfy massage bed and some nice music. Ahhh not quite what I was expecting I did have to second guess if the sheets on the bed were clean, there was no music and it was so bright in there I should of worn my sunglasses. Once again, the therapist was lovely, very friendly and on top of her game knowing I was a massage therapist.

I got onto the table with nothing to cover my eyes, it was bright, there was no music and it was awkward hearing her breathe, I felt tense and couldn’t relax. When I rolled over, again, I could feel her every move, my body was freezing, as the aircon was up so high and I started thinking about my clients and how they feel coming to me. This literally was all I thought about whilst having my back massage and praying that none of my clients feel this uncomfortable when they are on my table.
The massage was excellent I might add, however, the surrounding’s to suit this wonderful therapist didn’t match which makes me think “Would I ever go back?”.
What makes you go back after a treatment? Service? Cost? Location? Environment? (Feel free to comment below, it doesn’t have to be about my service just any)
So My session was for 1 hour and I must say I was dressed in full, paid my $90 and was walking out the door literally at the 65 min mark . As most of my clients know, I don’t rush.
As I run my clinic from home I always wondered if my business would be as busy as an “established” clinic and now I wonder why I even second guessed that.
My intention having a business at home was to provide excellent customer service, a safe and secure environment where clients can feel relaxed and able to let out whatever is going on with them, their family or relationships and a place where you don’t feel like a number and rushed out the door within the hour. I do hope this comes across when you see me.
So why am I writing this? Well to let you all know that I value your honest feedback. If you don’t feel comfortable, if you are too hot/cold, pressure too much or not enough, music too loud please tell me, as it’s important you feel good when you leave.
When I asked for a feedback form at the reception they didn’t have any and this got me thinking I need to do a feedback form. So brace yourself they are coming in your email very soon!!!

Have an amazing weekend everyone and I look forward to hearing all your feedback xxx

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